Triangular theory of love

The triangular theory of love characterizes love in a interpersonal relationship on three different scales: intimacy, passion and commitment. It was developed by Robert Sternberg. Different stages and types of love can be explained as different combinations of the three elements, intimacy, passion and commitment. Sternberg states that a relationship based on a single element is less likely to survive than one based on two or more.

Forms of love

The relative emphasis of each component changes over time as an adult romantic relationship develops.

Companionate love

Companionate love is a form of love that combines friendship and commitment. Companionate love is generally a personal relation you build with somebody you share your life with, but with no sexual or physical desire. It is stronger than friendship because of the extra element of commitment. The love ideally shared between family members is a form of companionate love, as is the love between deep friends or those who spend a lot of time together in any asexual but friendly relationship.

Consummate love

Consummate love is the most complete type of love experienced in interpersonal relationships, the three major components: intimacy, passion and commitment, are all present and balanced.

Consummate love may not be permanent. For example, if passion is lost over time, it may evolve into companionate love.

Reference

• Sternberg, R. J. (1986) A triangular theory of love. Psychological Review, 93, 119-135.
• Sternberg, R. J. (1988) The Triangle of Love: Intimacy, Passion, Commitment, Basic Books (ISBN 0465087469)